I am trying to understand the concept of a conformity-conscious freedom

It is a two-way traffic,

the language of the unsaid.

Anne Carson, from The Glass Essay (via violentwavesofemotion)

Don’t ever compliment me by insulting other women. That’s not a compliment, it’s a competition none of us agreed to.

cutemetalhead:

by the way, since we’re talking about r/tumblrinaction, i just thought you should all know that they literally encourage their users to go through these tags to pick on people, so i’d be wary about tagging stuff so it appears in these tags.

as was stated before, a lot of redditors use an entry youre featured on to send you anon hate, reblog your post to unsafe people, etc. so they might find you through these tags. a good way to avoid this is to put letters/numbers/symbols after the trigger, so you could put say #ableism 890283948 or #fatphobia djflksjdfj or #racism /// (like i do!). make sure if you do this theres a space between the trigger and the letters/numbers/symbols.

if you’d like you can signal boost this so your followers know to watch out

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The three most beautiful women in the world to me? My mother, and her shadow, and her image in the mirror.

Khalil Jibran  (via thelittlephilosopher)

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samssamulet:

the last one though lol

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http://wretchedoftheearth.tumblr.com/post/82958802821/royalcrownkoala-i-really-do-think-there-are →

royalcrownkoala:

i really do think there are people out there purposely trying to dilute and pervert the meaning of feminism to get women back in lockstep with patriarchy, not all of them are just victims who don’t know any better, some are comfortable in their roles and since liberal…

We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.

Kate of Eat the Damn Cake, The Stupidity of “Natural” Beauty  (via commovente)

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I think the average guy thinks they’re pro-woman, just because they think they’re a nice guy and someone has told them that they’re awesome. But the truth is far from it. Unless you are actively, consciously working against the gravitational pull of the culture, you will predictably, thematically, create these sort of fucked-up representations.

Junot Diaz (via luciaferr)

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Instead of glorifying rational choice, we need to look at how choices are often made at an unconscious level and how they are influenced by society at large.

Renata Salecl, The Tyranny of Choice (via revjalen)

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I don’t know what’s worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you’ve always wanted to be, and feel alone.

Daniel Keyes, Flowers for Algernon (via splitterherzen)

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